Spring Break
Relationship experts say cheating on Spring Break may signal the end, or a new beginning
Jessie WhitfieldIssue date: 3/27/08 Section: News
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And that means it's no longer is it acceptable to have sex with someone who engaged, married, in a relationship or your best friend's mom.
To be honest it never was but, without a doubt, there are plenty of students on campus hoping "what happened in Mexico, stays in Mexico", although odds are it won't.
Forget about keeping the fact that you passed out naked on the beach covered in vomit or you paid $5 for cheap sexual services in Tijuana hush, hush. Most likely the secret is out and there are photos on Facebook to prove it.
For those of you in a relationship who spent a week half-naked on the beach downing beers only to end up in a dingy hotel bed with someone other than your lover, prepare for the worst: returning to reality and facing your significant other.
(Alcohol + hormones + temptation) - boyfriend or girlfriend on vacation = a deadly equation for some relationships.
It's a proven fact, men and women's attention fixates on highly attractive people within half a second, according to a study by Jon Maner that was published in the September 2007 issue of Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. There is no doubt you were checking out hot bodies on the beach. The question your significant other is probably asking is whether you were you checking those hot bodies into your hotel room.
"Common causes of affairs are relationship problems, boredom and low-self esteem," according to psychotherapist Paula Hall in a relationship article on BBC.co.uk.
Alcohol was not listed as a cause, so if you're planning on using the "I was drunk" excuse, forget about it.
"Usually an affair is an external sign of an internal desire for change. Something in the person's life or the relationships isn't okay - and the affair creates the trigger for change," says Hall.
If you cheated on your significant other this spring break the best thing to do is inform them of your indiscretion. The whole "ignorance is bliss" and "what you don't know can't hurt you" doesn't apply to a relationship when cheating is involved. You're lying to and hurting yourself and the person you are involved with by not telling them.
Face the facts. Perhaps the reason why you cheated will bring to light why you shouldn't be in your current relationship. On the other hand, perhaps cheating will open your eyes to why you want to stay with them and what internal issues you need to work on to maintain your relationship.
"Trust only takes a moment to break, but much, much longer to rebuild," Hall said. "At first it may feel that your relationship will never recover, but with hard work and patience it can survive. An affair always signals a turning point in a relationship - but it doesn't have to signal the end."
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This is utter bullsh-t
posted 3/29/08 @ 2:01 AM MST
You're insulting your partner by NOT lying to them. The moment you acknowledge that you strayed, you acknowledge not only did you cheat, but you don't care about their feelings enough to keep it secret. (Continued…)
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