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As a girl growing up, I was bombarded with warm and fuzzy Disney fairytale endings and over-romanticized stories of what I thought adult life naturally was. It came as a bit of a shock to me when, nearly a year ago, I realized there really is no such thing as a “soul mate.” It was like the adult version of finding out that Santa Clause isn’t real.

Since then, my theory on this whole myth is that there are a ton of people out there that are compatible with a ton of other people, and when one of these meets the other, they are fully capable of authentically falling in love with each other. If they break up, it is only a matter of time before they bump into another potential love. It all goes back to the old saying “there are many fish in the sea.”

To drive my point home, here are some great quotes from celeb couples who lasted about as long as their latest Hollywood projects. It seems they have found “the one,” several times over. Strangely enough these ladies have one common link – John Mayer – yet another sign that soul mates just aren’t so.

Jessica Simpson about Nick Lachey
“After 9/11, I knew that I never ever wanted to be away from Nick ever for the rest of my life.”
And then…
“After three years of marriage, and careful thought and consideration, we have decided to part ways.” (Statement published by Nick and Jessica.)
And moving on…
“She’s head over heels (for John Mayer).” A source close to Simpson tells People. (Before this couple also split up.)

Jennifer Aniston about Brad Pitt
“I couldn’t have found a better man than Brad. He still opens doors for me and brings me flowers. He’s the sweetest goofball on the planet.”
And then…
“There’s a sensitivity chip missing in Brad.”
And moving on…
“I think I’m in love.” (In reference to John Mayer.)

According to TheSoko.com there are five traits that make an ordinary couple a “good couple”: Honesty, flexibility, trust, sex and independence.

As far as I can tell, these traits are not reserved for simply that one person in the universe. With a little work and the laws of attraction, I believe these are valid ingredients for a good relationship with a partner who does not necessarily have to fit into the “soul mate” category.

Another hitch to the theory is the fact that there are billions of people in the world and what if miles, continents or different lifetimes separate two lovers that are supposed soul mates? Wouldn’t we have a lot more lonely singles out there?

Don’t get me wrong, I am not writing off love as a fallacy here. Since my whole enlightenment on the subject, I have actually found comfort in the fact that there isn’t just one guy out there for me. The thought of soul mates is a great childhood story, but in the end that’s all it is.

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